Issue #12: Understanding and Setting Boundaries


The Sober Daily

Welcome to your daily sip of sober!

Boundaries are an important part of recovery.

Understanding what boundaries look like and how to set them helps you take care of your sobriety. Boundaries provide structure that frees up your mind and emotions.

Quote

> “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.” – Brené Brown, *The Gifts of Imperfection


Listen

Podcast Show

> Boundaries | Dr. Henry Cloud
Episodes of this podcast are short, direct stories from highly accomplished people, deconstructing the most important boundaries in their lives. These boundaries enable them to create great work, help others, and protect what matters to them most—their relationships, time, and hearts. Listen →

Podcast Show

> Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries | Victoria Priya
Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that personal and relationship boundaries are selfish, rigid, or controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Listen →


watch

YouTube Video

> Good boundaries free you | Sarri Gilman | TEDxSnoIsleLibraries
As Sarri helped people learn more about boundaries, she watched hundreds of people make the journey from being overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed out to people who trust themselves, and are decisive and committed to healthy relationships. In this video, Sarri shares some stories and tools you can use to strengthen your boundaries. Watch →

YouTube Video

> Boundaries for Beginners: How to Set and Keep Your Boundaries | Julia Kristina
Everyone needs healthy boundaries in their lives if they want to have healthy relationships. Setting boundaries is about more than just saying no - and when you learn how to set boundaries in a way that people will listen to and respect you will not only feel more free, but you will also start breaking the cycle of people pleasing and codependence. Watch →

YouTube Video

> Boundaries: It’s Time To Stop Dancing With Dysfunction | Lysa TerKeurst
Healthy boundaries are not only a good idea, they’re God’s idea. In this sermon, Lysa TerKeurst reminds us how important it is to set boundaries in our life without losing who we are. Watch →


read

Blog Post

> Personal Boundaries in Relation to Recovery | Ashley Treatment
Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. Boundaries define what is acceptable, and what is not in a relationship. It is possible to have different boundary types in different relationships. Read more →

Blog Post

> 4 Types of Boundaries in Recovery | Bradford Health Services
The path to self-discovery starts with self-respect. The recovery process includes reflecting on your values and establishing respectful limits for yourself. Understanding different types of boundaries can help you decide how and which to set, creating a foundation for long-term recovery. Read more →

Blog Post

> How to Set Boundaries in Recovery | 7 Summit Pathways
By setting boundaries with others, you allow yourself the necessary room to focus on your own actions. Setting boundaries can protect you from becoming ensnared in others’ emotional drama or well-intentioned but unhelpful assistance. It can keep you on the path to Recovery. Read more →

Book

> Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life | Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above. Boundaries is the ultimate source on helping you regain control of your life. *Get it here →


engage

Workbook

> Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life | Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
An essential companion to the bestselling book, Boundaries Workbook provides practical guidance and tools for setting boundaries in the home, workplace, and digital spaces. *Get it here →

Workbook

> The Set Boundaries Workbook: Practical Exercises for Understanding Your Needs and Setting Healthy Limits | Nedra Glover Tawwab
Filled with thought-provoking checklists, questions, writing prompts, and more, The Set Boundaries Workbook is a valuable tool for everyone who wants to speak up for what they want and need, and show up more authentically in the world. *Get it here →


Think

From Me

> To Ponder...
Do you struggle with setting and keeping boundaries? If so, what can you do to change that today?


That's it for today's newsletter. I hope you enjoyed our latest content and find it helpful in your sober journey. Each day will be a fresh list from various places. I'll see you tomorrow!

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